You haven't been outside your city much, have you? Because I know a few girls that have the same "problems" (frankly, I'd regard them as personal insecurities, i.e. a part of your fascinating personality as a human) as you, but are in no position to give up so quickly because they know the world doesn't contain only greedy bastards of the opposite sex.    Although it's unfortunate that most girls in your age group you've stumbled upon apparently "experimented" and messed up your dream of starting a traditionally "functional" family, you obviously didn't put a lot of effort in trying new approaches to attract your "type" of women. And, as Audry said, the women who allegedly "experimented" are not immature or stupid people. You'd be surprised how much more mature and wise a woman can be after those types of experiences (same goes for men). They've gotten to understand the nature of true relationships through their bad experiences and would be better equipped to handle a long-term relationship, such as marriage, than someone with no relationship experience at all (your case).    Honestly, as someone who grew up in New York, I've witnessed so many social changes that rooted from New York and spread to the rest of the world. I'm sure as an American you know what I mean. You were raised in a country that changes other countries, but you want to adopt the conservative and traditional ideals of Sharia Islam? I can personally tell you through experience, having roots in a part Muslim and very conservative country, that even a very conservative American will have problems with conservative Islam, irrespective of the American's religion. You are not attracted to Islam. You are attracted to the well-mannered and "well-moral" woman that you perceive to be mostly compatible with yourself. And there are probably millions of them in America.   So, my advice to you, don't run onto the battlefield in Afghanistan in a few months looking to have yourself killed. Instead, calm down and accept the reality that not most women are perceptively perfect but are great lifelong partners, nonetheless. You just have to put in some effort (or else no woman would put out ) to really get to know the woman. Rushing these kinds of relationships are also sure to fail since long-term relationships need time to build. Since you have a few months until your departure, try that. Then you may have someone to hope to return to when you come back from your service.