wow dude, im so sorry to hear all of that. Im going to be going through a hard time soon, my uncle who had liver cancer... well i just found out today that the cancer has spread to his kidnees, and there is nothing the docters can do. He is starting to turn yellow, and its so hard to think of this, I cant imagine what your going through though. My uncle is really close to my family, and he is a great musician, I think i might get a music staff tattoo of one of the lines from eleanor rigby on my back, but im not sure yet. My condolances, and i wish you and your wife the best. Take it slow.