My Views On Divorce Rates

[op2rules]

This randomly came to me a minute ago talking to somebody, and I just HAVE to write it all out because It's fresh now and it's interesting.

 

What my main point is here (and I will start with it) is that for a couple to last, they two partners must not change. This is why highschool relationships fail, because at a younger age as a person your undergoing a lot of new ideas and concepts, and its only a short amount of time before you're a completely different person than you were before. Now the idea is that for a couple to last, they must grow/change together. So possibly 100s of years ago this could work at a younger age as there was less complexions involved, such as moving away for education, or parenting methods, etc.

 

Anyways so that all down, back to the bigger part, why divorce rates are rising. So obviously everyone's great grandparents are still together, and also everyone's parents are separated. And by everyone I mean general majority. Either way, only a fool would try to argue otherwise regardless of if you fall into that category. So the only possible cause with substantial effect on this is the fact that the two partners get bored of each other, or they each go their own path. So why didn't this happen in earlier years? Well the answer is simple, the only thing now that wasn't before is technology. With all sorts of new communication methods availible, TV, internet, music, etc. Each partner is introduced to hundreds of outside influences that the other is NOT. As a result, this slowly changes the person and causes the inevitable separation to occur.

[PoLiX]

Moving to correct forum...

 

And what you said is a no brainer. No offense, but people get divorced because they drift apart.

 

And the divorce rate of the past would have been higher if not for 2 reasons: Higher percentage of religious people, and lack of Woman's rights. Most woman got use to the idea that they got married, had kids, and then their husband would have mistresses (normally if wealthy, not always). It wasn't uncommon for centuries that wealthy men had children with multiple women. It is was flushed out a lot of the drains of society. A woman didn't have to settle for a poor man and life if she could attract the attention of a rich man. And even better if the man was married, she didn't have to have any of the same responsibilities as his wife did.

 

On top of that, you had a lot more die hard religious people than you do now a days. Ones who followed the guidelines of the church more strictly. Hell, they even ran off and built a country based on the treatment they felt they were being given. Granted later it would be written that other reasons also played a part, but this was at the heart of it. Less of these men ever divorced, cheated, or had mistresses, as they believed that it was wrong as by their book.

 

Funny we were just talking about this at work yesterday and the subject comes up again here. But most the woman brought up the point of Woman's rights. And agreed when I threw in about the normal way of marriage with mistresses.

 

Communication does play a role, but it is other changes in society. Top that with a media making the divorce rate sound thousands of times bigger than it really is thanks to construed data, and many people having multiple divorces and being tracked as a single divorce each time (I know one girl who I work with who is 22 and has been divorced 3x already). But a divorce rate of 5 per 1000 people is still bad, but not EVERYONE's parents are divorced. I know probably 10x less people who's parents are divorced than people who's aren't. Heck, can only name maybe 4 off the top of my head, and 2 are brother and sister, so really 3 sets.

[op2rules]

Ah at first I didn't see it in the general section because I thought maybe the topic was offensive and it was deleted, either way; thanks

 

It makes sense what you're saying, and others have told me too that since its so much easier to get a divorce now than it was before thats more of a cause than what my point was. I'm glad I put this out there though, it really widened my ideas about the subject!

[L.C.]

I'll summarize my view on divorce as to why and how it happens in one word: selfishness.

[Dr Brain]

I'll summarize my view on divorce as to why and how it happens in one word: selfishness.

Indeed yes! Let me add another word: immaturity.

[Sass]

If you don't love the other person whom you married, (or intend to marry) your heart won't be dedicated to keeping the marriage together. With love, you can just about do anything in love and live a very fulfilling life! (obviously if you cheat on or abuse your spouse that's not love...)