I can't make my own topic

[»Xog]

I came to my apartment early from work the other day.. about 4 hours early, to surprise my gf. I open the door and one of our friends (guy) (that i met through her, it's more her friends) is sitting on the couch, my gf standing in the middle of the living room. They stare at me like "..." and my girl says "Hey, you're home early" I'm like "yeah, no shit?" and im like "why's he here?" and she goes "didn't you get my email?" and im like "No. when did you send it?" she's like "a little after 2"

 

sure enough she sent me the email, 2:17PM, telling me that Joe has the day off from school and wanted to hang out. First time ever, her letting someone over to my house while I wasn't there. At least she told me.

 

Now, I left my job at 2PM and got home at 3. I usually get home at 7. Keep in mind she's never invited anyone over to the house while I was at work before. We wound up hanging out and having a couple drinks, he bought some greenery for us and I took out the hookah - and he invited his gf over when she got out of work. They left at like 9PM.

 

Anyways, before me and my girl met, these two had a crush on eachother. They've hooked up a few times in the past. I don't mind that. They went through Highschool together.

 

However, about a year ago, my gf and I hung out at his place and did some shrooms. It was his first time, and he got all lubby dubby and tried kissing my girl on the lips. Obviously she said no, but she couldn't stop laughing. This kinda set the "You tend to step over the line with my girlfriend" mark on him. But then the above happened.

 

Opinions for Valentines Day? What are your thoughts?

Edited February 13, 2010 by Xog

[»Xog]

I can't necessarily get rid of her, she pays about 30% of the rent and she pays for the cable TV. I pay for everything else, and I can't afford living without her (money-wise atleast)

[BDwinsAlt]

Love is often accompanied by death in literature. Valentine colors are usually red or pink. A little blood shed won't hurt anyone.

 

Legal thoughts:

Get her something that she can look at everyday and appreciate. (Assuming you're already giving her some good sex)

Maybe a night out with a few drinks. Just enjoy the night. It may be comfortable just to watch a movie and hold each other.

I would give her something that comes from the heart. Something customized. Not just a bear that says "I wub you", but something that is special to her.

Think of something that means a lot to her, or say something that will make the water-works come on.

 

I'm not sure what she's like, but if she's like a friend of mine, she will be into the whole Hollywood fantasy romantic evening. Or she might be the type that likes to stay at home, watch some movies, and take a nice rose-pedal bath.

 

On topic:

I haven't tried their pizza, but about 10 years ago I did. It was good.

[»Xog]

Love is often accompanied by death in literature. Valentine colors are usually red or pink. A little blood shed won't hurt anyone.

 

Legal thoughts:

Get her something that she can look at everyday and appreciate. (Assuming you're already giving her some good sex)

Maybe a night out with a few drinks. Just enjoy the night. It may be comfortable just to watch a movie and hold each other.

I would give her something that comes from the heart. Something customized. Not just a bear that says "I wub you", but something that is special to her.

Think of something that means a lot to her, or say something that will make the water-works come on.

 

I'm not sure what she's like, but if she's like a friend of mine, she will be into the whole Hollywood fantasy romantic evening. Or she might be the type that likes to stay at home, watch some movies, and take a nice rose-pedal bath.

 

On topic:

I haven't tried their pizza, but about 10 years ago I did. It was good.

Huh, i was thinking about punishing her by ignoring her on vday

[BDwinsAlt]

No, guilt will do that.

 

Edit: Sorry had a typo. Head trama I guess :S

Edited February 12, 2010 by BDwinsAlt

[L.C.]

Do nothing.

 

Don't listen to me.

Edited February 13, 2010 by L.C.

[»Lynx]

Meh. It sounds like you're sure she's cheating, so plan for a rainy day and accept that you need her to help you pay bills. It doesn't mean you can't go out and play her at her own game.

[»Xog]

Meh. It sounds like you're sure she's cheating, so plan for a rainy day and accept that you need her to help you pay bills. It doesn't mean you can't go out and play her at her own game.

 

Oh I know, this was probably just karma catching up on me. Her oh-so-trusting girlfriends wanted a 3-way while my girlfriend was in Puerto Rico "staying in the hotel the whole time." with her other friend Traci.

[»Lynx]

... So, take it as a 'i can do what the hell I want guilt free' card, and call up your friends who wanted the threeway?

[»Xog]

Oh, I already did the 3way about a year ago. Haven't felt a bit of remorse. Edited February 13, 2010 by Xog

[MikeTheNose]

Don't do anything. What would you do if your gf was bisexual and had a female over? Would you insist she has no friends because of you?

 

As for vacationing and drugs, one you seemed to have heard about that from someone which insists she's not totally dishonest with you and second drugs affect the mind causing people to do stupid things.

[rootbear75]

Digital Download: $344.83 $49.99

very tempting.... payday isnt until monday. pray its still there then.

[aquarius]

I can't necessarily get rid of her, she pays about 30% of the rent and she pays for the cable TV.

 

She didn't kiss him when you guys were shroomed up.. She let you know he was coming over that day.. I see no reason (based on your post) why you would want to get rid of her.. Am I missing something?

I mean yea, he crossed the line trying to kiss her when you were all HALLUCINATING , but:

drugs affect the mind causing people to do stupid things

So give them both a freaking break. He even brought herb. And his girlfriend..

Maybe you're just insecure, or tired of her?

[»Xog]

Yeah, I think it was just shock.. I mean, the entire ride home I was saying to myself "Can't wait to see her expression when I walk through the door, 4 hours early!" and there was the "Man, what if some guy was doing her in MY bed when I walk through the door?" matched up with that.

 

Then I walk through the door to see this guy! It's not only the shroom incident, he's always crossing the "This is my girl not yours" line. Sometime's he's a little too friendly with her. I've talked to her about this in the past and she knew I had problems with him, which is why I was confused as to why she even let him over in the first place. She knows I don't like the guy.

 

For instance, about a month ago we all met up at a bar for his birthday. When we got there, he ran over to her (from his group of friends) and picked her up and kissed her face like 10 times. Like wtf? It didn't bother me too much to say "get the fuck off my girl" but it was just a "...." moment. He's done other stupid stuff like that before. It's just, everything he does bothers me.

[Trained]

Yeah, I think it was just shock.. I mean, the entire ride home I was saying to myself "Can't wait to see her expression when I walk through the door, 4 hours early!" and there was the "Man, what if some guy was doing her in MY bed when I walk through the door?" matched up with that.

 

Then I walk through the door to see this guy! It's not only the shroom incident, he's always crossing the "This is my girl not yours" line. Sometime's he's a little too friendly with her. I've talked to her about this in the past and she knew I had problems with him, which is why I was confused as to why she even let him over in the first place. She knows I don't like the guy.

 

For instance, about a month ago we all met up at a bar for his birthday. When we got there, he ran over to her (from his group of friends) and picked her up and kissed her face like 10 times. Like wtf? It didn't bother me too much to say "get the fuck off my girl" but it was just a "...." moment. He's done other stupid stuff like that before. It's just, everything he does bothers me.

 

First, don't tell her that you dont like him, and the things he does. TELL HIM. Nothing like a man standing up and being a man for his woman. Kinda scary to go through her. Just sit him down, face to face (not over the phone) and tell him how you feel like he is crossing the line. Oh, and don't be all friendly about it, let him know you aint playing around or think its funny. Thats how i'd handle it. I look at cheating like this, if you dont have a trust, you dont have a relationship. Also, if its gonna happen, itll happen and you can't really stop it, if that person wants it bad enough, they are going to do it regardless. Its pretty much a waste of time spending your whole relationship snooping around or worrying all the time if this person is going to cheat on you or what not.

 

Just my 2 Cents sir.

[»Lynx]

For the record, the internets isn't the best place for relationship advice.

[»Xog]

Yeah, I think it was just shock.. I mean, the entire ride home I was saying to myself "Can't wait to see her expression when I walk through the door, 4 hours early!" and there was the "Man, what if some guy was doing her in MY bed when I walk through the door?" matched up with that.

 

Then I walk through the door to see this guy! It's not only the shroom incident, he's always crossing the "This is my girl not yours" line. Sometime's he's a little too friendly with her. I've talked to her about this in the past and she knew I had problems with him, which is why I was confused as to why she even let him over in the first place. She knows I don't like the guy.

 

For instance, about a month ago we all met up at a bar for his birthday. When we got there, he ran over to her (from his group of friends) and picked her up and kissed her face like 10 times. Like wtf? It didn't bother me too much to say "get the fuck off my girl" but it was just a "...." moment. He's done other stupid stuff like that before. It's just, everything he does bothers me.

 

First, don't tell her that you dont like him, and the things he does. TELL HIM. Nothing like a man standing up and being a man for his woman. Kinda scary to go through her. Just sit him down, face to face (not over the phone) and tell him how you feel like he is crossing the line. Oh, and don't be all friendly about it, let him know you aint playing around or think its funny. Thats how i'd handle it. I look at cheating like this, if you dont have a trust, you dont have a relationship. Also, if its gonna happen, itll happen and you can't really stop it, if that person wants it bad enough, they are going to do it regardless. Its pretty much a waste of time spending your whole relationship snooping around or worrying all the time if this person is going to cheat on you or what not.

 

Just my 2 Cents sir.

 

I've spoken to him about it too. He knows it bothers me, but he just doesn't care and/or forgets. That time at the bar I gave him a dirty look when he picked her up and he pretty much stopped.

[Trained]

If youve talked to him, and warned him before, and he dont listen, now you beat him down.

 

Again, just my 2 cents.

[»gallitin]

Hmm...well sounds like you have already messed up by letting her know that you don't like the guy. Shows her that your insecure and she is feeding off that whether she knows it or not. You need to turn that back around by just not giving a f*** about it. 1 rule that has never failed me in my entire life, whoever cares the least always wins. I'm sure some will try to flame me for that, but it's the truth.

[aquarius]

if you dont have a trust, you dont have a relationship

[Kurplunk]

if you don't have donkey punch.. you don't have a relationship.

[»Xog]

if you don't have a dirty sanchez, you don't have a relationship.